No Laughing Matter: Humor in Couples Therapy

I have experienced the bonding effects of shared humor and the therapeutic role it plays in a couples’ relationship.

Often, in the course of the therapy, one of the healthiest signs that the marriage is still viable and can become strong again is the shared humor about family matters, each person’s shortcomings, children, and relatives.

My willingness to laugh at my own shortcomings, a characteristic way in which I think and work, can encourage others to do the same.

This attitude can be a relief to individuals who mistakenly feel that they must be perfect, and are averse to admitting their failings to their partners for fear that it gives the partner an upper hand.  Humor is curative, great bonding material and a leveling tool.

©jill edelman, L.C.S.W. M.S.W.