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Working together as a team of three — by Jill Edelman, M.S.W., L.C.S.W., Specialist in Couples TherapyOne Day At A Time: Parenting Adult Special Needs (Collected Posts)
Welcome. If you’re just discovering my blog and want to catch up to my series of daily posts about Parenting Adult Special Needs: One Day At A Time, this is the place to start. The series chronicles, from a parent’s perspective, our daughter’s transition as she ages out of the school system into the adult special needs phase of her life. To make your journey easier, the posts are listed here beginning with the first entry through the most current.
You may also want to check out these other posts about Special Needs families that predate Parenting Adult Special Needs: One Day At A Time:
A Couples’ Challenge: Special Needs Children, Young and Adult
Our Child Is Gay; Hasidic; Autistic; Muslim; Bi-Polar; Asperger’s; Born Again: The Coupledom Adjusts
One Day At A Time: Parenting Adult Special Needs Collected Posts
Parenting Adult Special Needs: One Day At A Time
Having a Comrade Helps: 4-3-11
Funding: A Cautionary Tale: 4-4-11
Apartment Hunting and Oprah: 4-5-11
Parenting Special Needs: Find a Mutual Passion: 4-7-11
Looks Like She Is Ready: 4-9-11
Structure or Regression: 4-10-11
Our Daughter The Blogger? 4-11-11
Exiting: The Purpose of This Meeting 4-12-11
The Alphabet Soup of Adult Special Needs: 4-14-11
Bureaucracy versus Safety: 4-15-11
Female and Special Needs: 4-16-11
Our Daughter’s Question: 4-18-11
Graduation 2011: Again? 4-19-11
“Oh, The People You’ll Meet”: 4-20-11
Good News and More Questions: 4-21-11
The Young Ladies Are Getting Psyched: 4-22-11
Easter Sunday With Our Daughter: 4-24-11
Needs Based Assessments and IQ: 4-26-11
Clarification: No Magic Wand Here: 4-29-11
Do You Have To Be Educated To Raise A Special Needs Child? 5-2-11
“Grad or Age-Out” and The Importance Of The Case Manager: 5-3-11
Training For Mother’s Day: 5-4-11
Protecting The Siblings of Special Needs: 5-5-11
Agency Transition Meeting: 5-6-11
Romance and Special Needs: 5-8-11
Cousins Fill The Friendship Gap: 5-9-11
Sex Education and Special Needs: 5-10-11
Where Were The Parents? 5-11-11
Special Needs and The White House: 5-20-11
Closing In On Aging Out: 5-21-11
SPHERE, Special People Indeed: 5-22-11
All Graduations Are Tear Jerkers: 5-25-11
Count Down to June 12: 5-29-11
How Do You Translate Special Needs Into English? 5-30-11
A Five Year Ritual Ends: 5-31-11
Momentum Building, It Must Be June: 6-1-11
Proving Need, Is It Over Yet? 6-2-11
Fast And Future Friends: 6-6-11
On The Brink Of An Apartment: 6-8-11
The Apartment Challenge Continues: 6-9-11
Off To Graduation Weekend: 6-10-11
OMG We Got The Apartment, I Think: 6-14-11
Giving Away The Bride: 6-17-11
Charles Dickens Pays A Call: 6-18-11
She Rocked The House and Stole The Show: 6-19-11
Sounds Similar, But Don’t Be Fooled: 6-20-11
Tighten The Purse Strings and A New Peer Group: 6-21-11
Parents Search For The Best Package: 6-22-11
Who Will Teach Her Now? 6-23-11
Knowing My Limitations: 6-24-11
Buying Underwear At The Mall: 6-25-11
A Flip of a Coin and The Illusion of Permanence: 6-26-11
Special Needs Sense of Humor, Without Judgement: 6-27-11
One A.M. Bedtime and Visiting Gaudi: 6-28-11
The Strangeness Of Proximity: 6-29-11
Finally A Walk and A Talk And Health Concerns: 6/30/11
Vacationing With Special Needs: 7-9-11
When Something New Is Ventured And A Horse Named Milos: 7-10-11
Waiting For The Little Bus, Again? 7-11-11
The Pop-In, A Flat Tire But A Decent Day: 7-12-11
Madam Librarian And A Home In Two Towns: 7-13-11
The Day Ran Away With Me: 7-14-11
Staff With Bounce And Mom Bumps: 7-15-11
Not All Links In The Chain Are The Same: 7-16-11
Ambiguity Doesn’t Work For Special Needs: 7-17-11
Pots, Pans and New Plans: 7-18-11
No Cable, No Move? And Mucho Dinero: 7-20-11
Successfully Installed With One Glitch: 7-21-11
Cleaning Sticky Books: 7-22-11
Back To Reality And A Star Magnet: 7-24-11
How Do You Teach Gratitude And Hurrah For The Other Mother: 7-25-11
When Will We See Her Again? 7-27-11
Bed Made, Now Sleep In It: 7-29-11
The Chocolate Fountain and Mom’s Cognitive Confusion: 7-31-11
Off To The City, Feeling A Little Giddy: 8-4-11
Funding A Life and Some Polo Play: 8-7-11
A Thumbs Up On Planet of The Apes: 8-8-11
Pregnant, Tired Or Fired? Nope Just Gone: 8-12-11
A Condolence And Busy Being Neighbors: 8-16-11
The Night Shift and Supplemental Needs Trusts: 8-17-11
Expressing Sympathy And A Special Needs Match: 8-18-11
The Elusive Job Piece: 8-19-11
Sheer Coincidence and The Personal Pays Off: 8-21-11
Oh No, Hurricane Irene, Disappointment Brewing? 8-24-11
A Sticky Visit and To Cry Or Not To Cry: 8-26-11
No Power, No Water, No Daughter: 9-1-11
One Mother Wanted To Schmooze: 9-2-11
No Dad’s Paintings Please: 9-6-11
The Thirty Day Meeting and Temporal Awareness: 9-7-11
A Celebration For The Artists: 9-9-11
Looking Ahead And Behind: 9-13-11
Purposeful Blogging, Pass It Along: 9-15-11
A Litter of Kitties and Buck: 9-16-11
An Oblong Moon and Courage: 9-18-11
DSS Messes and A Scary Future: 9-19-11
A Shared Grief and A Puncture: 9-23-11
Flying Home On A Donut: 9-24-11
I Am Busy With Something: 9-25-11
Holes in The PJ’s and Snagged: 9-27-11
The Mayor’s Daughter, Some Dogs, A Mini-Melt: 10-02-11
Local Forgiveness and “Anything Goes”: 10-03-11
Entitlements? Well Maybe Not For Long: 10-04-11
Part of The Process, Not The Solution: 10-7-11
Sequined Skirt and Silver Shimmer Shirt: 10-08-11
Patches Missing In The Quilt: 10-09-11
Double Negatives and No Plans: 10-11-11
Post-Traumatic Momma; Completing The Quilt: 10-12-11
More Than One Mother: 10-15-11
Love Her For Who She Is: 10-17-11
Angelfish: 10-18-11
A Magical Combination & A Swimming Buddy: 10-19-11
Giardia and Feral Cats: 10-24-11
Power-Less Sorceress: 10-31-11
Medicaid Mix-Up But Power! 11-01-11
Two Lady Grumps With A Lot To Share: 11-3-11
The Delights of Difference: 11-06-11
The Senior, The Cat and The Daughter: 11-10-11
Minds Have Met Before: 11-14-11
Coffee Grinds: The Sequel 11-16-11
A Hairbrush, Forgiveness and Natalie Wood: 11-19-11
Sunny With No Chance Of Angst; Medication Dilemmas: 11-20-11
Now that our daughter is out on her own, with her own apartment and jobs, we are entering a new phase of her life. And so, beginning with the following post, Parenting Adult Special Needs will now consist of weekly posts:
Phase ll Of Parenting Adult Special Needs: One Week At A Time
Medication Rears Its Ugly Head: 1-2-12
Typical Friends And The Cyber Social World: 1-9-12
Texting While Sleeping: 1-15-12
Who Defines Disability? The DSM V and Autism: 1-23-12
Heading To The Dog Show: 2-13-12
Two Ladies About Town: 2-20-12
Social Graces and Seven Months: 2-27-12
Closing In On A Year & Building Trust: 3-12-12
A Year’s Journey From All Sides Now: 03-26-12
A Humbling Journey with Warts and Blemishes for All To See: Part 2: 3-27-12
News, and a Special Opportunity for My Readers
Mom, I Know I Was Born With Eggs: Parenting Adult Special Needs One Month At A Time
The Busy Life Of A Special Needs Adult: 6-25-12
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My daily and weekly blog on parenting adult special needs will continue. I am publishing an edited compilation of the blog late this Fall.